Learn How to Get Past Silence,
Walls & Shutdowns

For women dating avoidant men

Stop the Spiral and Overthinking —
Discover a Calmer Way to Reconnect.

The Problem

(and why it drives you crazy)

You text him… he leaves you on read.
You call him… he doesn’t answer.
When you see him and try to bring up the issue… he walks away or buries himself in his phone, giving you the silent treatment.

You know this cycle all too well. Deep down, you can already feel it’s going to ruin your whole day. Frustration, hurt, and doubt settle in. The silence feels personal — like rejection.

Part of you wants to yell, and part of you just wants to give up completely.

You Find Yourself Thinking…

“Why am I the only one trying
in this relationship?”

“This is so cruel, selfish and immature.
I don’t know what I see in him.”

“I shouldn’t have to be punished like this.”

“Talking isn’t that scary… why is it so hard for him?”

“I deserve better than someone who can’t even communicate.”

“Really? You can’t even text me back? It takes two seconds.”

That mix of anger, frustration, and confusion is exhausting.

It makes you wonder why you put up with this…and if this relationship is worth it.

Why Staying Stuck Hurts So Much

When this pattern keeps happening, it slowly eats away at you:

You spiral for hours, replaying every word, every tone, every pause.
You chase, push, or over-explain — and he pulls further away, leaving you desperate and unheard.
By the time he “comes back online,” you’re so upset it blows up into another fight.
You start believing maybe you really are too much… or not enough.
Over time, it chips away at your trust, intimacy, and sense of safety — leaving you exhausted, lonely, and wondering if it will ever change.

Meet Your Coach

Hi, I’m Jennily 👋

I get it — because I’ve been there. This is the course I wish I had when I first started dating my avoidant partner. When he got triggered and shut down, I didn’t know how to handle it — I’d never dated someone like this before. I used to feel disrespected and even angry when he put up walls or pulled away. I would lecture him, pressure him to communicate, and protest whenever he tried to walk away. All of this came from my anxious instincts — I just didn’t know any better.

I had no idea that our struggles were a matter of working with different attachment styles — a niche many therapists aren’t trained in. Everything started to change when I finally learned how to work with my nervous system, develop compassion for his shutdowns, and respond in more effective ways that rebuilt connection.

I learned how to transform from anxious to secure attachment by healing myself holistically. Now, as an Integrative Health Practitioner and Attachment Coach, I help anxious–avoidant couples around the world do the same. I combine neuroscience, somatic healing, and practical communication tools to help you break the cycle of tension and finally feel calm, clear, and connected in your relationship.

The Solution

That’s why I created this mini-course:

When He Shuts Down: How to Get Past Avoidant Walls and Distance

This step-by-step guide includes:

WHY He Shuts Down: Stop blaming yourself
Understand what’s happening when he pulls away, so you stop spiraling, overthinking, or taking it personally.

Instead of feeling powerless, you’ll feel steady and in control of your emotions.

Instead of feeling unsure, you’ll have confidence in how to show up in your relationship —
even in tense moments.

Instead of constant conflict, you’ll start creating real safety, trust, and closeness.

Stay Calm When Silence Hits: Keep your cool instead of panicking
Learn how to calm your racing thoughts and stop over-texting, over-explaining, or losing sleep worrying about what he’s thinking.

The Mistakes That Push Him Away
What most women do that drives avoidant men farther—and what they don’t realize actually sparks connection.

Reconnecting After Shutdown: Bring back closeness and feel heard
Know how to approach him so conversations feel safe, calm, and connected — so you finally feel heard and understood.

Instead of feeling powerless, you’ll feel steady and in control of your emotions.

Instead of feeling unsure, you’ll have confidence in how to show up in your relationship —
even in tense moments.

Instead of constant conflict, you’ll start creating real safety, trust, and closeness.

What’s Inside the Course

Module 1: Awareness & Compassion

Attachment Styles 101: Why you chase and he pulls away
Finally understand why you crave closeness and he withdraws — and see how this push–pull pattern keeps showing up in your relationship.
Inside His Nervous System: What’s really happening when he shuts down
Discover what’s going on in his brain and body when he goes quiet, so you stop taking it personally and start responding in a way that actually works.
Compassion Without Self-Blame: How to care without losing yourself
Learn how to support him and stay grounded in your own worth, so you stop spiraling and start feeling safe in your skin.
Module 2: What to Do (and NOT Do) When He Shuts Down

Self-Soothing Strategies: How to calm yourself in the moment
You’ll get simple, practical tools to settle your nervous system the second he pulls away, so you don’t spiral into panic.
What NOT to Do: The mistakes that push him further away
Find out the common moves — like chasing, protesting, or lecturing — that only make him retreat more, and learn what to do instead.
Holding Space Without Losing Yourself: Staying secure when he needs distance
You’ll know how to give him space without abandoning yourself, so you feel calm, steady, and confident.
Module 3: When He Comes Back Online

Approaching Him Safely: How to reconnect without sparking conflict
Learn how to gently re-engage when he “defrosts,” so conversations feel calm instead of triggering.
Avoiding Common Pitfalls: Keeping things from blowing up again
You’ll know exactly what not to do so you don’t accidentally restart the same old arguments.
Connection-Focused Communication Tools: What to say so he actually hears you.
Get word-for-word scripts and communication strategies that invite understanding, intimacy, and safety — instead of conflict.